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Finding New Goddesses

Finding_New_Goddesses  You have no doubt noticed that spiritual and religious writing is almost without exception Highly Serious. The standard-brand monotheistic holy books, mainstream metaphysics, Eastern wisdom, channeled "wisdom," books on philosophy and meditation—hardly a smile in any of it, never a giggle. "This is Deep Thought," the earnest and learned ones seem to be telling us. "Our Religion Is Nothing To Laugh At."

Why not? What on earth (or in the various heavens and hells) is so holy that we can't make fun of it?

That's why I started Finding new goddesses. What are Found goddesses? They're made-up deities, goddesses who cope with issues not even dreamed of in ancient Greece or India or the northern lands. Please note that I did not invent Found goddesses. Morgan Grey and Julia Penelope coined the idea in 1988 for their wonderful little book, Found Goddesses. Their first Found goddess was Asphalta: "Hail, Asphalta, full of grace:/ Help me find a parking space."

Finding New Goddesses:
    Reclaiming Playfulness in Our Spiritual Lives

The Found goddesses are the new ones, the ones we make up to help us deal with modern life. The ancient and classical goddesses can help us with love and abundance and revenge, but whom do you ask for a good haircut or a good used car? To find a decent apartment to rent? What goddess is responsible for air conditioning? Which goddess do you go shopping with? The first goddess I found was Caloria, the triple goddess of potluck. I also Found three Crone goddesses (Auntie Gravity, Hormonia, and Naustalgica) and twenty-odd computer divinities (goddesses, their consorts, a brother, and a power animal named Mouse).

My intention in writing Finding New Goddesses was to bring playfulness to our spiritual lives. The book is full of parody, puns, awful verse, and some really strange literary and cinematic allusions. Don't take it too seriously. Just have a laugh or two.

Agenda: Goddess of Meetings

I Found Agenda when the First Officer of the Covenant of the Goddess chapter I belong to said to me, “You better come to this meeting.” That sounded, as they say, like an invitation I couldn’t refuse. So I went to another meeting.

Presiding at every possible meeting and wearing Her red suit and power heels, Agenda stands eternally at ease behind Her Golden Lectern. Her high priestess is Miss Manners, Her high priest is Dilbert. Working the room are Her johns—the vestryman John T. ( Dress for Success) Malloy and John ( Megatrends) Naisbitt. Among Her worshippers we will always find, on one side, Mary Kay and her beautiful friends and, on the other side, Bill and his thirsty friends.

Attend! She is calling us to order. “Greetings,” She says. “My name is Agenda and I’m a Goddess.” “Hi, Agenda,” Her worshippers reply. And another meeting is officially under way.

We go to so many meetings. Board meetings that last for all eternity, council meetings that will put the most unregenerate insomniac to sleep, committee meetings more partisan than any civil war. Meetings of service clubs and unions and hobbyists and professional organizations. Networking meetings and PTA meetings. Assemblies, convocations, conventions, expos, reunions, gatherings, and get-togethers. In any given meeting, it happens that some attendees have something they feel compelled to express and that most of the other attendees would rather be somewhere else. Here’s a heartfelt invocation for those of us who have something better to do than listen to idiots:

Hail, Agenda, social rover,
Help us get this meeting over.

[ Note: I wrote this in 2002, when I was still going to a lot of meetings. I no longer belong to COG, which is an excellent organization, and have belonged to numerous networking organizations. My friend Angelo, with whom I frequently go to the theater, keeps saying I need a twelve-step program for theater tickets.]

Blandonia (pronounced bland-ON-ya): Goddess of Political Correctness

Blandonia is the only Goddess I know Who can take advantage of the Beings With Disabilities Act. First, Her vision is profoundly skewed. She can see only in black and white. She sees no shades of gray, no colors at all, and probably has tunnel vision. Second, although Her heart is often in the right place, it is sometimes a bleeding heart. And, third, Her funny bone (humerus) is broken. There is nothing humorous about Her. Her sense of humor totally atrophied. This is a Highly Serious Goddess.

We cannot fault Her for trying, however. She’s got the right idea, that we should not insult or defame other people. She just doesn’t know what to call anyone, and so She hyphenates everybody: African-American, Chinese-American, English-American, German-American, Native-American. And although men are forever boys, women are never girls. Short people are vertically-challenged, thin people are calorically-challenged, fat people are sveltely-challenged. People who can’t dance are Astairily-challenged, people who think they can’t drum are Richly-challenged, people who don’t like to read are bookwormily-challenged, people who don’t like vegetables are broccoli-challenged. Blandonia even corrects our job titles. Bus drivers are Large-Transportation-Multi-Passenger-Vehicle Motorpeople. Fairy Goodmothers are Ethereal-Material-Wish-Fulfillment-Manifestory Agents. Writers are Conceptual-Semantical-Syntactical-Manipulatative Scribalists.

How did poor Blandonia become so vilely afflicted? One story has it that when She was young and innocent She was attacked by a liberal parasite. If true, this might account for Her occasional knee-jerk and the bleeding heart. I believe, however, that She suffered a schoolyard injury. After a hard day’s study of the Saga of Dick and Jane, She and Her little friends were preparing to walk home when they were stopped at the gate by a militant Political Theological Animosity (PTA) Ogre. This villainous Being laid a serious curse on poor Blandonia, the result of which was that ever since She has refused to eat anything but Spam sandwiches on white bread with mayonnaise, canned string beans, and generic vanilla ice cream. Receiving no nourishment, Her humorous atrophied. The dishumor soon spread throughout Her body, and She was never seen to have any fun again.

To this day, in fact, She has never tasted parody or irony. She tried nibbling at a pun once, but spat it out immediately, and the only limerick She ever tried made Her sick to her stomach. The one time She was persuaded to suck upon a fresh, sweet double-entendre, the taste left Her dyspeptic for forty days and forty nights. Poor Blandonia has never been able to digest any kind of Comic Relief. I am, alas, unable to provide an invocation to Blandonia. She just wouldn’t get it.

Queuemulus (pronounced cumulus): Goddess of Standing In Line

Most people do not realize how truly fortunate we are to have so many daily opportunities to practice the disciplines of the firm but gentle goddess Queuemulus. Her bounty is indeed unmatched, for it is with unstinting generosity that She leads us through the Dreadful Alphabetical Valleys of the Shadows of the USPS, the DMV, the EDD, the GPS, the ISP, and even the ATM. With altruistic forethought, She whispers to us, “Wear comfortable shoes,” and “Bring a paperback novel to read,” and “Don’t forget your bottled water.” She guides us in drive-thrus and cineplexes and stands beside us as we try to communicate with cashiers and receptionists. She defends us against bureaucrats and uncivil nonservants and all HR officials, who are neither humane nor resourceful.

If it were not for the wisdom of Queuemulus, we might go mad. But madness may be averted! For in every opportunity we receive to worship Queuemulus, we are also gifted with unending opportunities to practice Her spiritual disciplines.

We may begin with Standinginline Yoga, which is somewhere beyond the outer reaches of hatha, raja, and bhakti, and wherein we stretch eternally to learn the Asana of Comfort and relieve our flattening feet.

Our next discipline may be Inline Zen, wherein we seek to understand the paradox that “you’re next in line” actually means “you’ve got at least another hour” and listen to the endless tales of the Ancient Bearded One, he who stoppeth one of three and fixeth us with his glittering eye. “When I first came into this line,” he croaks, “it was full daylight and there was Hope.” Because we have an eternity to wait here, we may also ponder the koan, how many clerks does it take to make the line move faster? [Three: two to stand around and one to actually get any work done.]

Our third discipline is Waiting Room Meditation, wherein we contemplate the Sliding Glass Window of Maya and watch the mysteries of “Live with Regis and Girl,” or perhaps listen to the hemi-demi-semi mantras of talkradio, wherein selected species of homo insapiens sound off. On some stations, of course, the only sound is the Empty Rushing Wind, which is actually the top of the meditation pyramid: we can’t do anything but sit there and listen to pure nonthought.

And our fourth discipline is Takea Numerology, wherein we hold and study the little pointed number to learn our appointed place in a complex and chaotic universe.

Eventually, Queuemulus willing, we may arrive at the blessed state of Queueuemonimbleness, wherein we are able to shower the people with love (or at least common courtesy) and meet Missmanners, the sweet yogini of pleaseandthankyou. Missmanners is not, however, all sweetness and light. She will also take up arms in Her eight hands to help us battle the demons and ogres that butt in line, wave large bills and rush up to the window, or claim to have bought their tickets yesterday.

Blessed Queuemulus, stand beside us now and at the hour when we faint from hunger and exhaustion, amen.

Can you tell Finding New Goddesses is one of my favorite books? I keep having fun with the blessed Verbena and Finding new girls. (I also Found one god.)  BUY THIS BOOK. I have lots of copies, so if you want to read about Our Lady of Guilt (all mothers) and her daughter Libida Loca or Mimsy Borogove, the modern muse and want a signed copy of the book, send me an email.